If you do want to learn a few new ideas, go to a bookstore and browse one of the many sex guides on the shelves. Third, you don't need to know any expert tricks simply placing your partner's penis in your mouth will bring him loads of pleasure. Second, if you are worried about cleanliness, take a shower with your partner before sex (which can be good clean fun on its own). First, you should never feel "bad" or guilty about performing oral sex - it's healthy and normal, just another way to spice up your sex life. Let's work on getting you comfortable with this sexy move. And if your partner's going down on you, shouldn't you return the favor? (If he's not, doing it for him can give you an excuse to ask him to reciprocate - and if he won't, to discuss why not.) What's more exciting than watching your partner in the throes of ecstasy and knowing that you brought him there? Done willingly, with the goal of providing pleasure, giving oral sex can make you feel powerful. In fact, performing fellatio can be enjoyable for some women (really!). Well, let me reassure you that blow jobs can be fun. And few look forward to gagging or, um, swallowing. My question to you is: What exactly turns you off about blow jobs? Lots of women describe that "ick" factor you mention in getting up close and personal with a man's private parts - do you view the male genitals as dirty? For some, the practice is degrading - "good girls don't." Still others are afraid they don't have the skills to give pleasure through fellatio. So if you care for your partner, I believe the question should not be whether you want to provide him with oral pleasure but, rather, how often! He shouldn't have to beg for it or have to wait for that once-a-year opportunity! Many say it makes them feel special and loved. Psychologically, men often feel that oral sex shows how much a woman wants and accepts all of him. And all the while, he gets to lie back and focus only on his pleasure, without any pressure to perform. Your moist, warm mouth - combined with the oral gymnastics your lips and tongue are performing - can create a multitude of thrilling sensations. Some men consider it more intimate than intercourse.
And here's why: Oral sex is very intimate and pleasurable (as you probably know from having received it - I hope!). If there's one thing men say they don't get enough of, it's blow jobs. Is it really that important?Ī: To most men, it is important. She knew my intentions, and she also told me nothing happened at her friends house.Q: I really hate giving oral sex - I just can't get over the "ick" factor. I kick her out of my bed and drive her home telling her to not talk to me again.ĮDIT: I debated on adding this in here earlier. Tl dr: after not believing the events of a night, looked through this girls phone and found texts indicating she lied to me about what she did that night (gave a blowjob, said she loves this guy, and eagerly awaits his texts). I suppose my question is, was I an asshole? Did I handle this appropriately? I've never had an issue with trust like this before. I said I wasn't going to talk about why and I drove her home. She wanted to know why and quite frankly, I didn't even want to begin to have the conversation because I figured she would try and refocus the issue on me looking through her phone (I'm not vindicating my actions there). I told her to get dressed because she was going home and that I didn't want to speak to her again. I composed myself walked over to the bed, and she was rustling around. This came to me entirely out of left field, and I was pretty distraught, but I asked for it by looking. I looked through some texts on her phone and found out that she made out with this guy then blew him, told her friends she thinks she loves him, and eagerly awaits his texts. I am a pretty trusting person, but I decided to get some sort of affirmation about what happened. Around 2 in the morning I'm wide awake and can't sleep, and for some reason I can't shake the notion of her and that guy.
She ends up coming back to my place and spends the night cuddling - she's done this twice before. Since then she's become increasingly withdrawn.įlash forward to the other night some friends, her, and myself all go out for a few drinks. So I couldn't quite shake the notion of nothing happening. But the guy is, quite honestly, good looking and is set to be pretty successful. She told me about it, and I wasn't about to dismiss her plans. Two weekends ago she went over to a guy's house and spent the night. Nothing physical has really happened as she shoots down any attempts by me under the guise of her being "lady-like." That's cool with me, she is a sweet girl, and I genuinely enjoyed spending time with her. I've been talking to and dating this girl for about 3 months now.